I saw this on Facebook the other day and reposted it to my account, but wanted to use Matt Grahn’s thoughts as an outline for my post this-week. Matt’s 10 points will be in bold and my thoughts will follow. This post was posted by the Positive Coaching Alliance.
I think I will start including this in the packet (notebook) I hand out to student-athletes at the beginning of the season. Our student-athletes not only need to know what college coaches are looking for but they also need to always be encouraged to be a great teammate.
“Shared by PCA Trainer and college basketball coach Matt Grahn on what he looks for in recruits.”
- You’re willing to play any role that helps the team.
Possibly one of the most important lessons an athlete on any team can learn. A team is a group of individuals functioning as one single unit. In the Bible 1 Corinthians 12:12-27 gives us an illustration on how members of a church function as one body although there are many parts. Perhaps, this same illustration can be used for a team in any sport. There are many parts and all of them work together in unison as the body. Just like on a team, each part of the body has a role to play in the function of the body. A hand cannot go off by itself and continue to function the way a hand is supposed to. On a team, every member has a role, and each member has to perform their specific role to help the team, for the team to function as a team, and for the team to be the best version of itself possible.
- You would rather score less and win than score a lot and lose.
I’m partial to basketball because I coach basketball and it is the sport I love the most, but this illustration will easily adapt to other sports. If as a team we believe that we are one single unit functioning together everyone on the team gets credit for and are responsible for the points on the score board. If one person shoots and makes a three pointer we are all responsible and we all get credit because as a team we worked together to make those three points possible. At the end of the day in team sports the only points that matter are the ones on the score board. In team sports individual accolades to have a place, but they have to be celebrated in unison with the whole team and with an understanding that the whole team helped in the achievement. Kareem Abdul Jabaar scored a lot of points, but someone had to pass him the ball … and the teams he was on, won a lot of games.
A player being more concerned about their point total over the success of the team is selfish and in my book doesn’t have a place in team sports. Obviously the best offensive players will be (or should be) the ones taking the bulk of the shots on a team. The game plan and making sure everyone is buying into it is up to the coach and the leaders of the team. If not everyone is buying in then continued conversation and team building need to happen.
- When your team scores, the first people you congratulate are your teammates.
I love watching players point out the teammate who passed them the ball after they score. This shows unselfishness and an understanding that the whole team is in this game together. The job of teammates on a team is to love and respect each other, and one of the ways this happens is by encouraging each other, and looking for ways to support one another. Congratulation and celebration happens better in community as it helps us remember that we, as members of a team, are not in this alone.
- You love practice as much as you love games.
I always loved to practice just as much as I loved games. Whenever I was a role player, practices became my games and I looked forward to lacing my shoes up every day so I could make myself and my team better. I’m finding out in my research that the great players love the grind of practice as much as they love the games. Practice by oneself in the off season is of vital importance to any athlete. To help the team and yourself become better at your craft and skill each player has to be willing to put the time in by their self. I just finished reading Larry Bird’s book “Drive” and it this book he talks about practicing by himself. Larry Bird felt like he could get more done by himself or with one other person than with a whole bunch of people there with him. There is something to be said about going out and practicing by oneself. The repetition is important, the time to think is important, the mental advantage of being able to push oneself when no one else is watching is important, the creativity in practicing without supervision is important, and the hours to build ones craft and skill are important.
As a coach I continue to love practice as much as games, if not more, because of the opportunity practice provides to spend time with young people and teach them about life and sports. Practice is where the relationships are developed, and the bulk of coaching and teaching needs to take place. I always feel like I have let my team(s) and athletes down if they get to a game or meet and they aren’t ready to compete or perform to the best of their ability. Practice is where coaching and teaching happens and that is one of the reasons why I like practice so much. Practice provides athletes the opportunity for the athlete and team to improve and for this reason alone athletes need to love practice as much as games.
- You respect your opponents but don’t fear them.
I don’t know where I came up with it, but one of my guidelines for my teams, and I don’t have very many, is respect. I agree with this statement so much because it is so true. We don’t fear our opponents, but we do respect them, and out of that respect we do everything possible we can to win. Here is what I say to my teams about respect. Respect each other, your teammates, by fulfilling your role, being your own best self, performing your duties as part of the team, and by loving and taking care of each other. Respect yourself by showing up each day trying to be the best version of yourself, practicing hard and smart, being coachable, being a good teammate, and by glorifying God with you talents. Respect your coach by listening, being coachable, working hard in practice, being a good teammate, investing in the relationship, and participating as a member of the team. Respect the fans that paid money to watch you play by playing the way we play … work hard, have fun, and love each other. Respect the officials by not talking back to them, by accepting their calls, and by acknowledging their place and responsibility in the game. Respect the other team, your opponent, by playing hard, by not stepping down, by practicing good sportsmanship, and by giving them your best. And finally respect and honor the game you are playing by understanding the history and traditions and by giving it your best.
- You listen, are coachable and respect your coaches and officials.
This needs to start at home with parents. Parents need to make sure their children have respect for them and other authority and are “parentable.” Parents also need to back up the coaches at home … not bad mouth them … and talk to their children about being coachable and having respect for coaches and officials.
Coach ability is huge. I love working with athletes who are coachable and go out and work hard at what we are asking them to do. Coachable athletes are fun to work with and make coaching very rewarding. Coachable athletes also see the most improvement because they are willing to listen and work. They are also very likely to seek help, and go out on their own to find solutions and practice on their own. The biggest character strength is humility, and perhaps we as coaches can model this by being coachable ourselves. We learn and grow together … this is what life is all about.
I’ve talked about respect. Respect in team sports is huge, and also in individual sports. We have to respect coaches, coaches have to respect players, we have to respect officials, and we have to respect the games. Coaches if we want to gain the respect of our players, we have to be people they can respect. We are living in a day and age where they will see right through our phoniness and call out our B.S. We have to work hard to gain their respect and live lives worthy of their respect, but as we work with student athletes it is so worth it.
- You are quick to pick up a teammate who is having a bad day.
30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[a] 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] There is no commandment greater than these.”
The responsibility of teammates to each other is to love each other part of loving each other is encouraging them when they are having either a good day or a bad day. The biggest thing is being there for each other.
- You help younger teammates who have less experience.
Cool story. Last year at the end of the season we pulled a freshman up to our varsity team when one of our varsity players was injured. His moving up to varsity and playing meant he would most likely take playing time away from an upper classman. This happened. During one game, after an important time out towards the end of a league game, the upper classman who was sitting on the bench pulled the younger player aside to encourage him and to explain to him in more detail exactly what he was supposed to do in the play our head coach told them to run during the time out. This older more experienced varsity player could have been upset about not playing as much, but instead he understood his role as a team player and took the time to help out a younger and less experienced teammate. This act of unselfishness did not go unnoticed by the coaches, but we also understood this act to be in line with this young man’s character.
Older team athletes should always be looking to help younger or less experienced players improve. As everyone improves the whole team improves and gets better. Older team athletes leading the way in this goes a long way in helping the team, coaches, and the younger player’s development.
- You learn and grow from your own mistakes, as well as others.
Mistakes are simply opportunities to grow and improve. In a society that looks down on mistakes we have to make sure members of our teams understand that mistakes will be made and they are simply opportunities to grow and improve. How we handle their mistakes as coaches goes a long way in helping them see mistakes as way to grow. Do we see mistakes as an opportunity to patiently and lovingly teach in order for student-athletes to learn and grow? Or do we come down on our student athletes angrily in a fashion of fear that hinders their development?
I’ve learned that student athletes generally understand when they have made a mistake and are probably already beating themselves up. Patiently walking alongside them in the journey of growing in their craft and skill goes a long way in their development. Getting upset at them generally doesn’t help in the process at all.
- You’re confident but not arrogant.
I watched a player the other night that played with confidence and humility, and I’ve got to tell you that she was fun to watch. I think confidence with humility is the opposite of confidence and arrogance, and I will take confidence and humility in an athlete all day long. Arrogance is not a trait that works well with others and athletes and coaches who practice arrogance usually find themselves lacking quality relationships (lonely and isolated), offending other people, and struggling to survive. With confidence with humility expect the opposite … expect quality relationships and a flourishing environment. It is one thing to think you are the best and to go out and quietly prove it, it is an entirely other thing to think you are the best and to go out and tell everyone about it … being able to back it up has nothing to do with it.